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This is day 1 in my 31 Days series on sustainable dwelling. For an introduction and more posts, head here!

The weekly reckoning...
1991. Adam being able to come home for a few hours before leaving town
1992. and giving part of that time to me, in the form of lunch out alone (something that I definitely valued)
1993. A productive and efficient evening, and going to bed early
1994. Finding a local pumpkin patch to explore with Brooklyn and Tobin
1995. Happy childhood memories that I'd like to share with them, and with Adam - I realize that's something that not everyone has
1996. A friend from Fayetteville coming down for the weekend - on a weekend that Adam was out of town for work
1997. Help getting everyone ready for/to church
1998. After-church lunchtime conversation
1999. My amazing photographer husband
2000! The opportunity to do what I love, with people I like (and get paid for it)
2001. A short day, with lots of resting
2002. The way Adam jumps in to the middle of whatever's going on when he gets home
2003. An awesome morning studying Ephesians with a lovely group of ladies
2004. Brooklyn and Tobin riding in the "car" cart together at the grocery store - it's the first time he's been balancey enough to sit in one
2005. That there's more than one kind of everything, even pumpkins - our Creator is so creative!
2006. Discovering Brooklyn's new-found climbing ability before she tested it on anything less stable than her changing table
2007. A date night in
2008. Four years with an awesome guy, and the hope of many more years to come

Today/yesterday marks our fourth anniversary - four years ago yesterday, we signed a contract and turned it in to the courthouse in Annapolis. and four years ago today our family gathered around us and we made promises before God.

Because we've grown and changed (emotionally, spiritually, and physically - my ring didn't fit anymore), we got new rings this year and reminded each other of those promises as we exchanged them. I'm glad of the growth and the change - good things, and markers we can look back on as we go forward, because sometimes the path stretches out so long that you can't tell if you're making any progress.

Before we can start trying to live in an outwardly sustainable way, we have to focus that same effort inward, as well. We have to seek constant renewal - to walk around corners, hand in hand, with a sense of wonder rather than dread - to prioritize relationships over stuff - to find so great a joy in the journey that we're willing to take the long way 'round, instead of rushing from point A to point B with such determination that we not only fail to stop and smell the roses, but trample them, instead.

Adventures are always better with a friend - and I'm looking forward to jumping into this month next to my best friend, making memories and forming new traditions that we can share with each other and with our two Minis.

Sustainable dwelling really does begin in the heart - with a grateful attitude and a love of adventure.


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This year I'm diving into my greatest passion: knitting! I'll spend this month looking at past designs and talking about the inspiration behind them, so there will be plenty of regular life mixed in with the stitching - and there may be discount codes for the patterns that I write about. You'll just have to read and see!

Pattern index:

Pageturner Mitts
Hogwarts House Tie
Urban Artemis
Graffiti for Humanity
Love Out Loud
Strange Jacket


In order to change your knitting, you must first change yourself. I've lost track of how many times I've said that, or how many people I've said it to. Frustrated new knitters wondering why their work is loose or tight or uneven or really anything less than perfect. But something I love about knitting is that it's a record of your inner dialogue. That swatch knit at the yarn store table with a cozy cup of coffee and a helpful (and more experienced) knitter nearby is going to be a lot more relaxed than the sweater begun a week later while sitting next to a hospital bed - just like the knitter.

Unfortunately, this also applies to my own knitting. For years, I was apparently unaffected by the shifts and turmoils in my own life, so I assumed that I was exempt from the rule - when the reality was, in fact, that I wasn't really experiencing any of those on anything deeper than a surface level because everything was deadened by depression. When I finally started to really…


A few years ago, I was introduced to the concept of replacing the traditional list of resolutions with a single word. It appealed to me - I am not a big list person, but I love language and words and meanings and etymology and metaphor and... ahem. Ennyhoo. I liked the idea.
I've never chosen the word. It's always presented itself to me - and last year was no different. Pacific was very insistent, even though I tried to argue with it. Pacific? What does that even mean? What am I supposed to do with that?
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So I'm bidding pacific a very fond farewell, and welcoming spark and whatever lessons it would like to bring. I invited it in with a copper wire punctuated with tiny lights and wrapped around my mood board, and I've got an empt…